I want you to read the following questions and be honest:
- Think about your current job. Are you satisfied?
- Think about the people in your inner circle. Are you content with their presence in your life?
- Think about the life you dreamed of as a child. Are you living it?
- Think about your perfect day. Has it happened?
- Think about your vision of the perfect partner/spouse. Is that who you’re with?
If you answered “NO” to any of those questions, you need to keep reading!
Unfortunately, we become conditioned after a series of disappointments, failures, misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Our ability to trust diminishes with every situation. Those ill emotions we lug around with us become our consistent thought patterns, which in turn present themselves in our actions and ultimately in our lives.
I want you to think about the above 5 questions. If you come to the realization that many aspects of your life are inadequate, it’s okay to reevaluate their importance. It’s okay to request more from yourself and the people around you. It’s okay to not like your life right now, ONLY if you are up for the challenge of changing those circumstances.
You can’t complain about everything and do nothing. You can’t wallow in self-pity because no one cares. You can’t want things to be different and do the same things expecting them to change. It won’t work. Period. It starts with you. YOU are responsible for your happiness. YOU are the reason why your life is the way it is. YOU are the only one who can ensure you enjoy your life.
Don’t blame your parents, they only created you and assumed the responsibility to raise you. Their job is done, even if they didn’t do that much right. Your friends have their own issues consuming them; it’s not their responsibility to make you happy. Your children didn’t ask to be here, so don’t even think about blaming them. Your significant other probably needs to do some reevaluating too, don’t count on them to bring you YOUR happiness. It’s just you my love, just you.
I’ve answered no to a few of those questions, hence my reason for even writing this. I’ve written out my joys and pains into two lists. As I read each one, I make a decision of its relevance. If I benefit from it, it stays. If I don’t, I cross it out. Make a list (your choice) and take your time. It’s important to do this when you’re not in a place of stress so you are able to think logically.
There is nothing more vital to your life than to remove what no longer serves you. Whatever form those necessities come in. Everything you engage in and spend your time on or with should be bringing joy to your life.
If it isn’t, you’ve got some work to do. Not telling you how to live, just making a suggestion that helps!